Episode 289

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21st Feb 2024

From Anxiety to Action: Transforming Your Money Conversations

Navigating Money and Relationships: Insights from a Licensed Clinical Social Worker


About the Guest(s):

Sheila Nissim is a licensed clinical social worker with extensive experience in psychotherapy. She works with individuals of all ages, helping them navigate various emotional and relational issues. Sheila has a particular interest in the intersection of money and relationships, and she helps clients explore their beliefs, anxieties, and experiences related to money. Through her work, she aims to empower individuals to develop a healthier and more positive relationship with money.

Episode Summary:

In this episode of Money Roots, host Kate Welker is joined by Sheila Nissim, a licensed clinical social worker, to discuss the complex relationship between money and relationships. They delve into the psychological aspects of money and how our upbringing and experiences shape our beliefs and behaviors around finances. The conversation highlights the importance of open communication, understanding each other's perspectives, and finding common ground when it comes to managing money as a couple. Sheila emphasizes the need for patience, compassion, and self-reflection in order to navigate the challenges that arise in money-related discussions.

Key Takeaways:

  • Money is a loaded topic that can evoke various emotions and anxieties in individuals. Understanding our own money stories and beliefs is crucial for developing a healthier relationship with money.
  • Each person in a relationship may have different experiences and perspectives when it comes to money. It is important to acknowledge and respect these differences, and engage in open and non-judgmental communication.
  • Combining finances in a relationship can be a significant step. Couples should have conversations about their expectations, fears, and goals related to money. Starting with small steps and gradually building trust and understanding can help navigate this process.
  • Autonomy and individual financial independence can coexist with shared finances. Couples can consider designating separate accounts for personal expenses while maintaining joint accounts for shared expenses.
  • Patience, compassion, and self-reflection are essential in money-related discussions. It is important to create a safe space for open dialogue, take breaks when needed, and approach the conversation with a willingness to understand and compromise.

Notable Quotes:

  • "Understanding what's so upsetting about money is important. It's not only about the money itself; it symbolizes deeper emotions and needs." - Sheila Nissim
  • "Having separate accounts doesn't mean hiding money; it can be about autonomy and individual needs within a shared financial framework." - Sheila Nissim

To listen to the full episode and gain valuable insights into navigating money and relationships, tune in to the Money Roots podcast. Stay tuned for more engaging discussions on personal finance and emotional well-being.

This episode is brought to you by Rooted Planning Group. Rooted Planning Group is a fee-only financial planning firm that specializes in working with women in their 30s and 40s who want to take control of their finances and plan for the future. Whether you're just starting out or you're looking to make a big change, Rooted Planning Group can help.

Visit www.rootedpg.com to learn more.

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Amy Irvine

Uncorking Amy Irvine!!

If any of you have ever met Amy, you know she is passionate about
three things. Family, Finances, and WINE! This comes through in all
that she does and all that she is. When asked to describe herself she first and foremost states, “I am a wife, a daughter, and hopefully a good friend, who happens to also be a financial planner.” Amy holds a Master’s Degree in financial planning and is a Certified Financial Planner TM , Enrolled Agent, Certified College Financial Consultant, and a Financial Wellness Coach with over 25 years of financial planning and industry experience. She is the Founder and owner of Rooted Planning Group, (Formerly known as Irvine Wealth Planning Strategies LLC), which started in 2016 and has grown to include 6 other planners and 2 part-time staff members. Amy is definitely “doing it her way” and has been recognized by her financial planning colleagues as being a “disrupter,” a title she holds close to her heart and is proud of.

Uniquely, at the age of 44, she decided to not only start her only company, but to act on what she defined as her perfect life and she splits her time between Parrish, Florida and Jasper, New York.
On her website it states, “I love what I do, but I also very much enjoy warmth, good
conversation, wine tastings, and volunteering. New York is extraordinary in the summer and fall, but so is Florida in the winter.”
In 2018, she decided it was time to take the stigma out of finances by combining her passion for finances and wine. She started a podcast called “Wine and Dime,” which highlights a different wine and financial topic each week, and she released her book combining those same two passions, titled, “Uncork Your Finances.”
Many of you may know her as one of the co-founders of the Southern Tier Women’s Financial Conference – a day of collaboration and financial education, which will be hosting it’s sixth year!
To round out her volunteering passion, she often provides financial education to the
community through the financial management program of Cornell Cooperative Extension of Steuben County, she serves on the board of Faith-in-Action of Steuben County, volunteers for various Fund For Women of the Southern Tier events, works with the finance committee of the Arts Council of the Southern Finger Lakes, and serves on the board for the Corning Painted Post Historical Society (also known as Heritage Village).
In her downtime, you’re likely to find her with a glass of red wine from one of the many Keuka or Seneca Lake wineries that she highlights in her Wine and Dime Podcast.